Join over 100 moms with distracted / highly emotional kids using the
Start Focus Finish system!
Help your distracted child finish homework INDEPENDENTLY!
without tears or tantrums, in 1 afternoon -
no nagging, yelling or bribing from you required!
Join over 100 moms with distracted / highly emotional kids using the
Start Focus Finish system!
Help your distracted child finish homework INDEPENDENTLY!
without tears or tantrums, in 1 afternoon -
no nagging, yelling or bribing from you required!
Join us for 90 minutes and I'll help you...
Work WITH your child's unique brain, not against it.
Invite cooperation and sidestep the opposition.
Feel secure and confident in a system that works
Be assured that what we are doing is training and giving our kids the skills FOR LIFE
to manage their time and take ownership of their work.
Are you...
feeling lost at what to do other than nagging and yelling,
running out of ideas to get your child take ownership of his/her own work,
angry with yourself because you care more than your child about that half-assed, half-done assignment,
it’s time to implement the SFF (Start.Focus.Finish) system.
You walk in the door after a long day. Bag's still on your shoulder when you see it: backpack open on the floor, dog-earred worksheets stuffed, folded, crumpled and spilling out of the backpack; worksheet blank, spelling list untouched, piano lid closed, PE kit still damp and balled up in the corner — and your child, sprawled on the sofa, three episodes deep into something with a toilet in a suit singing at them.
"Did you start your homework?"
"...no." Not defiant. Not even guilty. Just — no.
You ask again at 6:15 p.m. Then 6:40. By 7, you're standing over the desk while your child chews the end of a pencil and stares at a math problem they clearly know how to do. You're doing the thing you told yourself you wouldn't do tonight — the sighing, the "I've asked you three times," the countdown out loud.
And somewhere around the second meltdown, spelling list still untouched, you catch yourself thinking: I care more about this piece of paper than he does.
Tomorrow it'll be tingxie. The day after, piano. Every evening, the same negotiation, over a different subject.
The work continues to pile up, each day, more of something that needs to be done, is still undone.
And underneath it all is the question you don't say out loud: if he's like this now, with me right next to him — what happens when I'm not there to sit next to him anymore?
If we haven't met, hi, I'm Abigail!
4 years ago, I was exactly in your position, asking the exact same question. My son would be an angel at school and then come home and unleash all his fury on me, usually triggered by my nagging to get him to do homework.
He would be so angry at doing Chinese copywork (xi2 zi4) and learning Chinese spelling that he would tear the paper, scream and cry. It was so difficult every afternoon because I would have to first endure his tantrums, scold him for provoking his sisters because he was angry, then still make him sit and finish his homework. If I left his side, he would not do his work.
We suspected he had ADHD but he was not diagnosed then so it was all up to me to figure out a way to help him calm down, get used to a structure and motivate him to finish the work. And then train him to do all those independently. I had to learn on the job and fortunately, my background in psychology and teacher training came in handy.
Things have changed so much now for us and he can take out his work and finish it independently. Life at home is so much calmer and easy when you don't need to keep pushing and reminding little people to do their work every.single.afternoon!
Here's what I believe: nagging / scolding / bribing were never the answers.
Moms of distracted, big-feelings kids, it's time for some real talk: you're not lazy, you're not a bad parent, and your child isn't broken — but every evening still turns into the same standoff. Many moms of ADHD and highly emotional kids face this exact struggle: trying to get their child to just start (and finish) their own work without a fight. Some nights it's torn-up worksheets and tears. Other nights, it's stone-cold silence and shutdowns.
This is where I come in --- a fellow in-the-trenches-with-you-mom and your coach in the ADHD parenting world.
The Start.Focus.Finish workshop is a 90-minute system designed to calm the meltdowns, build real cooperation, and hand your child the skills
to finish homework on their own — no nagging, yelling, or bribing required.
With SFF System, you can rest assured that you are
working towards your child learning the skills to
take ownership and manage his/her time and work
WITHOUT you being the driver or prompter.
Introducing
Start.Focus.Finish System
This workshop helps you implement the system to get your child to start, focus and finish homework without you nagging and yelling.
Learn and implement the SFF system in 1 afternoon!
🟢 Understand your distracted child’s unique mind and hidden superpower
🟢 Go from meltdown to motivated
🟢 Do this 1 thing that will calm the big emotional meltdowns
🟢 Come up with a simple, repeatable process to coach your child to finish homework independently
Access the 90 min workshop immediately and get everything you need to help your distracted child become more motivated and independent!
Topics:
Here's what we 'll cover inside the workshop:
✔️ My go-to process for diagnosing child’s meltdowns and misbehaviours (so you can tackle the root of the problem, instead of skirting around and getting worked up over the
symptoms)
✔️ My favorite tools for helping the child become more independent and self-manage
✔️ How to get buy-in and cooperation from your child (and solve 80% of the conflict with your child!)
BONUS CONTENT!
🎁 A step-by-step implementation guide for you to work through the steps and apply
straightaway (worth $17)
🎁 Study tips and hacks that WORK for the distracted child - managing spelling and
tingxie (and tests) independently. ($49.90)
🎁 Tips for managing Home-Based Learning independently ($27)
🎁 Managing screentime boundaries for your child ($67)
You'll get access to all these bonuses for free!
Here's what others said...
"The best $$ I ever spent in my whole life. I am in CA so I woke up early to listen live. It was also the best 60 minutes of my life!"
- Mummy P, Full-time working mom of 1
FAQs
What age is this workshop suitable for?
This workshop is most suitable for primary schoolers (7-12 years old). The principles will work for younger children, like those in Kindergarten 1 and 2, but the motivators will have to be adjusted. The expectations for these younger preschool kids will also have to be tempered because obviously, they cannot do many things independently yet and will need more adult supervision and guidance. That said, there are definitely things these little ones can do and can be very capable if they have been trained!
If my child doesn't have ADHD / ASD, is this workshop still suitable?
Absolutely! The strategies shared in this workshop will work for all kids who exhibit procrastination, distraction, big emotions, or a lack of motivation. In fact, majority of kids will display these behaviours but are NOT neurodivergent! However, the fact that these symptoms are causing the child or you some distress is an indicator that you need to look into the underlying causes and fix them before the friction gets worse. This workshop will definitely work for you (probably even better and faster than families with neurodivergent children) if you put this system in play!
When is the next LIVE session? Must I wait till then?
There are no more LIVE sessions. This workshop has gone through 2 LIVE sessions and has been newly re-recorded to add in my latest learnings as a two-time PSLE mum! My child (the one with ADHD and the whole reason I created this workshop for) is now 13. Armed with new reflections and the things that worked best with him, I recorded this workshop again so this is the best version! Parents who have bought previous versions will get access to these (and all future) upgrades!
What if I don't find the workshop effective? Can I get my money back?
If you had bought this workshop, went through the material and tried my methods and still, you're not happy with the results, write to us and I'll give you a full refund! You will need to show some evidence (pictures) that you have tried some things but this didn't work for your child.
I hope to give you the assurance that this is risk-free for you and I do want you to try something different - because I know too much is at stake for your child and family if you keep fighting over the same things again and again - everyday! And yes! I'm that confident! I know that when you change some things (even the small things), your child will change!